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Life is not a straight-forward path. It throws you curve balls when you least expect or want it.

When we are kids, life is much easier. For most kids, the first 18 years of life are pretty simple. You go where you’re told to go, do what you are told to do and if you follow along, you can do pretty decently for yourself. Success is easily measured and defined.

At 18, expectations for what you do and what you know dramatically change. You are expected to know what you want to do in life, have a clear idea of each stage. It’s like a video game with clear goals and stages and you are the character going through the motions. The problem is, these goals and stages might not be what is best for you.

Have you ever stopped to think about whether or not these are the right steps to take? Who is controlling you? How do you know what you should be doing? Honestly, I would benefit from taking a few steps back to reflect more often.

At this point, I have achieved some amazing things. I have a great family, job, and savings to boot. I have my health (though my gut may beg to differ). The question I have for myself is where do I go from here?

With my desire to learn about personal finances, and more recently about financial independence, life has gotten easier. I spent time investing in my career, building my social skills, and enhancing my career capital that has translated well to something the market values.

I am reminded of a phrase often used in the FI community. Build your life then save for it. It’s a great starting point, though having recently watched an incredibly motivational video on Kevin Hart, we can all do more. He often asks himself, “Why not me?”.

For example, there are people that have phenomenal bodies. Why not me?

There are people that are polymaths. Why not me?

There are people that seem to achieve more in a day than most achieve in a week, month, or year. Why not me?

I am far from religious and believe we only have one life. And although I have a cynical bent, life is far more enjoyable living as an optimist.

It seems as though we should all strive to be better for ourselves, our families and friends, and our communities. It is too easy to complain, to rage against others for things they have that we do not. It is far more difficult, though far more rewarding, to keep moving forward.

For me, I aim to finish my certificate in order to finish what I started. Over the summer, I will start learning French with the goal to be conversationally fluent by the end of August.

How will you keep moving forward?